Soulmates, Past Lives, and Relationships: Feeling The Pull Of "The One"

There are many different views on what a soul mate is and what it means. We'll take a few different looks at it in the post.

Richard Slade takes our first look soul mates sharing past lives and the life lessons that go along with that: 

As we establish soul love in relationship, soul mates often delve into their many incarnations together. These past lives reveal to them the life lessons and purpose for being together. Many times each partner will uncover the same lives, a story told from two very unique perspectives. In several circumstance I have had third parties confirm their experiences of the same life time. As we re-experience the many lives we have danced through time together, we are able to discover the means to restore the love we have all been looking for in relationship.  

Past life remembrance helps us more clearly understand ourselves and our relationships, as well as liberate ourselves from the entanglement of soul karma. We often find our soul family playing out similar dramas over and over again. Through our willingness to walk the spiritual healing path, we untangle the web we have all woven, and through our liberation we unplug from the karmic net, enabling the opportunity for our soul family and soul mates to at last become free.

TheLoveShaman has a deeper look at the soulmate and that feeling that they are "The One":

A Soul Mates relationship can be defined as a spiritually significant deep heart connection with another person whom you share history with over lifetimes that greatly accelerates transformation and soul growth. When you come upon a Soul Mate, it feels fated, intense, telepathic, familiar, as if you have known each other before. There is often an unspoken resonance and understanding of one another, a sense of immediate affinity and love, which can manifest as intense states of bliss and sorrow. Somehow you know that you share some sort of spiritual purpose together and you feel an urgency to get this show on the road.

Many believe that there is “The ONE,” the perfect Soul Mate companion, searching for us out there in the big wide world, waiting to be reunited. But the truth is that we have MANY Soul Mates relationships of varying degrees and purposes. A Soul Mate can indeed be a romantic partner, but they also can be our family members, significant friends, mentors, work companions, even our most feared “enemies” and abusers. Often our Soul Mates are not incarnate in this world and work with us from the other side of the veil as our spirit guides and angels. We are born into this universe with quite a large Soul Family, consisting of these varying degrees of relation, coming to the Earthly realms with a group mission or intention to heal or manifest. And of course there is the ultimate reunion with our Twin Flame, the divine reflection of our highest self.

Michelle Knight looks at some misconceptions she feels people have about these deep feelings and connections:

A lot of the time, people confuse soulmates, past-life connections and addiction. If that sounds a bit dramatic, read on. 

There are people that we have relationships with where tell ourselves that we’re in love and that we’ve met our soul mate because we’re thinking about that person all the time or tuning into their feelings when actually what we’re dealing with is a kind of addiction. You know that you’re dealing with addiction rather than real love when you feel that you simply couldn’t live without that other person and when the thought of being without them is too terrifying to even think about.  That kind of love that actually knocks you off of your path, but it can also be the kind of love that teaches you something.

In contrast, past life relationships can be just as intense, but there is a particular kind of familiar feeling about them.  I’ve bumped into two people in this life that I know I’ve had previous past-life relationships with. When you meet someone that you had a past-life relationship with, you it often feels as if that person is your soulmate because you know them with a profound feeling of recognition, you understand each other, you have more of a bond when you’re separate from each other and you can kind of feel where they are.

Beth Layne talks about "the pull" which if you've had it, you know it is like tractor beam reeling you in:

Very often, soul connections have helped each other grow in previous lifetimes, and for that reason, there may be karma between them yet to be resolved. In these cases, the “pull” that is felt toward one another may definitely be stronger than other soul connections encountered through life. There may also be a noted amount of synchronicities that take place around the time of or after the time of meeting. These are the soul connections that tend to end up in deeper involvement and/or romantic relationships.

I often hear those hurting over the break up of a romantic relationship say things such as, “When I met him, I just knew we were meant to be together.”, or “I felt like I had known her all my life!” or even statements like, “There was an instant attraction that we both felt!” In these instances, what has happened is the soul connection they felt for each other brought a romantic relationship. It does not actually mean you were each other’s one and only true soul mate, as so many people throughout their lives search for. We will often continue working on relationships through multiple lifetimes, learning and growing through our relationships in each incarnation together.

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